If you train with a spouse, you will want this to be fair. Fair will wreck both races. One of you is the engine that day. The other is the governor.
Michelle’s 2:12 at Hibiscus was not a compromise pace. It was her day. Jay sitting on easy was the work.
Apply it to weekends. Apply it to who gets the 5 a.m. ocean and who gets the later bike. Apply it to the week before a race when one of you is tapering and the other still has a build. Say it out loud so it does not become a fight about dishes.